Memorial: Shirley Brey

Memorial posted by Guest on Mar 06, 2006 at 02:47 pm in  Community
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One of the Peninsula’s and the Coastside’s strongest supporters and protectors, Shirley Brey, passed away on March 1, 2006.  We, her sons and daughters, were proud to call her “Mom”.

Shirley was a “supermom” long before the term existed.  As a mother of five children she worked full-time as an operating room nurse, served for 9 years on the Board of the Los Altos School District, played tournament tennis, and did all this without gardeners, housecleaners, au pairs, or prepared foods. 

As a mother, Shirley didn’t just teach us to love and be curious about nature – she lived it.  We went on long camping trips every summer, countless hikes, fishing trips, and spent lots of time exploring tidepools and creeks.

Awareness and appreciation of other cultures and the environment was one of the family values that Shirley embodied.  In the late 60’s and 70’s she took us to Native American Pow Wows, and we danced in the Japanese Obon Festival.  She also took us to the first Earth Day celebration in Palo Alto in 1972.

Of course, she taught us volunteerism and activism. Shirley drove for Head Start, was a Girl Scout Leader, worked in the PTA, and taught Japanese brush painting to fourth graders in the Los Altos School District.  As a member of the school board she was able to hand out junior high school diplomas to all five of us!

Shirley moved to Half Moon Bay 20 years ago, and never let up in her activism and community involvement.  She worked on Senior Housing Rehabilitation, helped to start the Neighborhood Alliance, Half Moon Bay Open Space Trust (HOST), League for Coastside Protection, and served on the Board at the Coastside Opportunity Center. 

In addition to her service to the community, Shirley still found the time and energy to be a loving grandmother to her eight grandchildren.  She had a knack for teaching important life skills to kids, such as tying shoes, hammering nails, painting, whittling with a pocket knife, and lighting matches.  She also spent countless hours cleaning, doing laundry, and babysitting. 

She said she always wanted to be an eccentric old lady on the coast.  We let her know that she could stop trying.  She’d made it.

A memorial service will be held on Sunday, March 12, 2006, at 11:00 a.m., at Enso Studio and Meeting Center, 131 Kelly Avenue, Half Moon Bay, CA.  In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to the Half Moon Bay Open Space Trust (HOST), on the web at http://www.hostlandtrust.org .

Chris Brey

Comments

Comment 1 by Chris Dicker  on  Mar 07  at  9:14am  •  All my comments • 

Shirley wasn't just a 'supermom', she was a super human being! We worked together on HMB environmental and political issues, and I always admired her energy and dedication. She was such an asset to our community.

She will be missed.

Comment 2 by Kevin J. Lansing  on  Mar 07  at  11:40am  •  All my comments • 

I served with Shirley on the Board of Directors for the Half Moon Bay Open Space Trust.

Her vibrant spirit was an inspiration to all her knew her. I will always remember her determination to stand up for her beliefs. She truly appreciated the natural beauty of the Coastside and she worked hard to help preserve it for future generations.

Her graceful and dignified approach to her final months was in keeping with her honesty and integrity.

Comment 3 by lani ream  on  Mar 07  at  2:06pm  •  All my comments • 

Shirley, one of Rich and my best friends, will be in our hearts forever. She was one of the most dedicated Moms and Grandmas that I know, loving every wonderful event in her family. She was, as her grandson John said, "the funny bunny boss of her life". The world seems emptier without her. lani ream

Comment 4 by Suzanne  on  Mar 07  at  2:53pm  •  All my comments • 

I had the pleasure of serving with Shirley on the Board of Directors of the Half Moon Open Space Trust. She was an extraordinary woman--as brave in the face of controversy as she was in her personal challenges. She was always ready to do what needed to be done, whether it was licking envelopes or speaking up for her beloved Coastside. She was feisty and funny and involved with the world around her, a real model for "successful aging." I will miss her.

Suzanne Black

Comment 5 by lesliemccarthy  on  Mar 09  at  9:43pm  •  All my comments • 

Shirley spoke truth in a world of equivocation. I loved her authenticity and candor. She never minced words and inspired me -- and so many others -- to pursue joy. She was a rare heart, always ready with a bit of brutal honesty and a loving laugh.

A number of us will always remember Shirley, not long after her diagnoses and still suffering a lot of back pain, lying prone on a couch at Kathy Wnorowski's house, stuffing campaign letters and suffusing the place with her contagious, feisty good cheer.

Her five generous, smart, right-minded children are testament to her wonderful spirit.

I'll miss Shirl. But am sure she's moved on to raise hell and have fun in some other lucky community.

Leslie McCarthy

Comment 6 by Judy O'Leary  on  Mar 11  at  1:21pm  •  All my comments • 

I worked with Shirley Brey on the Board of Directors at the Coastside Opportunity Center for a number of years. Her insight and wisdom was much appreciated. Shirley also donated her time around the holidays playing the role of "Mrs. Claus" in from of local coastside markets to collect money for the Adopt A Family program. She was a generous woman who will be missed. Judy O'Leary Board of Directors, Coastside Opportunity Center

Comment 7 by Dana Kimsey  on  Mar 11  at  3:44pm  •  All my comments • 

One of the greatest gifts Shirley left us were her expressions. I can still see her blue eyes sparkling when she said: "Everything is just as it should be; it's right on time." Dana Kimsey


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