Gay wedding business opens on the Coastside


Posted by on Wed, July 16, 2008

Rev. Christie Hardwick has identified Half Moon Bay as an ideal location to start a new business in staging same-sex weddings, now that it’s legal in California.

"I have heard from a couple of people making sure the (gay wedding) market knows that they’re there," said Charise Hale McHugh, president and CEO of the Half Moon Bay Coastside Chamber of Commerce. "Businesses have been hurting. Anything that brings people to Half Moon Bay is advantageous for everyone. We are a tourism-based economy."

Half Moon Bay farmer John Muller has already been approached about allowing his picturesque farm home, with its pumpkins and flowers, to be used as a site for future catered gay weddings.

"If things work out, we would be interested in doing it. It’s another aspect of the flexibility of staying in agriculture," he shrugged.

 

 

 

 


At the risk of being insensitive…YUK!

I’m with Mike. Coastside weddings are so, I don’t know, Meg Ryan.

**Well, Meg Ryan and yuk aside, we at Michael A. [Wong Wedding Photography][2] wish we had thought of it first.

Well, yuk and Meg Ryan aside, we at Michael A. Wong Wedding Photography wish we had thought of it first.

I’m with Michael & Deb, I think it’s a great idea.

Neil Merrilees

Well, in the interest of attracting tourists, for their good ole buck, let’s really go hog wild.

How about a couple of Houses of Ill Repute, and/or a gambling casino?

Sausalito North…yes!

Gay couples rewriting wedding etiquette
By By Sasha Talcott, Globe Correspondent |  March 21, 2004

NEW YORK - It’s not a question of finding the perfect groom-and-groom wedding cake topper anymore. These days, it’s all about whether same-sex couples want a fancy, multitiered cake at all.

Instead, carrot cakes are all the rage, and so are chocolate and lemon. The tradition dies hard, but others say anything beats the cardboard-tasting wedding cakes of yore.

``The gay community just has better taste. They want to make their dreams happen,’’ said Charlotte Berwind, a wedding planner in Carmel, N.Y., who says her gay clients are typically far ahead of the cake curve. ``For a straight couple, after the dress, she’s done. It’s just a matter of smacking some chicken on a plate and getting a check.’‘

As same-sex couples ponder marriage, they are rewriting the etiquette book, and many are leaving traditional ceremonies behind. But whatever their plans - rainbow wedding rings, honeymoon trips to Key West, Fla., or even just a wedding invitation that says ``partner’’ instead of bride or groom - companies are lining up to cash in.

At a ``same-sex wedding expo’’ here this weekend, more than 8,000 gay and lesbian couples perused the frilly lace dress hats, four-button tuxedos, and flower arrangements of roses and peonies, taking in the sights and sounds of ``Loveland.’’ Onstage, a group of drag queens sang ``Chapel of Love’’ and tossed a bouquet of white roses into the crowd.

An exclusive china company urged love-struck couples to sign up for its gift registry, while an English designer advertised ``couture bridal wear’’ and jackets, vests, and ties ``for gentlemen and their partners.’‘

Caterers passed around glasses of French wine in hopes of landing an upscale fÂete, and a lesbian klezmer violinist led dancers in the hora.

Many of the couples yesterday were making plans for lavish Massachusetts ceremonies in May, when gay marriage is set to be legal under a Supreme Judicial Court ruling issued last November.

``I’m hoping it’ll be a candlelight wedding,’’ said Rob Rosilleo of Provincetown, gathering wedding tips from the planners. He showed off his ring: gleaming gold, with nine diamonds. He and his partner have birthdays nine days apart.

The two want to marry near the ocean in December, with matching tuxes and white ties. They have asked their mothers to walk them down the aisle.

These days, gay weddings run the gamut from glitzy high-fashion fÂetes to quiet getaway retreats.

Some gay couples opt for traditional touches with black-tie waiters, a solemn religious ceremony, and a radiant bride escorted down the aisle by her father. Others take another approach with lavender invitations and flowers like orchids, violets, and pansies that have historically denoted homosexuality.

Rings, for one, are optional - especially for gay men. And the brides can choose everything from matching white frilly gowns to tailor-fit tuxedos.

In the vows themselves, the language describing the significant other is a source of hot debate.

```Partner’ sounds so businessy,’’ said Nick Burkett, a creative director for a New York ad agency. ``But then `boyfriend’ sounds so fleeting.’‘

``So high school,’’ his husband, Kevin Caudell, agreed. ``It sounds like, `We’ve been dating for six months and we’re going to date another six,’‘’ Burkett said. After 15 years of living together, the two call each other ``husband,’’ though they won’t be officially married until May at a chateau in Quebec City.

But other gay and lesbian couples don’t like the words ``husband’’ and ``wife,’’ saying that they’re too demeaning - and too straight. They prefer terms like ``partner for life’’ and ``spouse’’ instead.

About a year ago, the klezmer artist, Alicia Svigals, played at the ceremony of lesbian Jew from a prominent Orthodox family. Under the traditional wedding canopy, one bride wore a white wedding gown, the other a black suit.

A grandmother in a babushka came. So did hip young New Yorkers in slinky black dresses.

At the SoHo reception later, the disc jockey played the hora and other Israeli circle dances. Then he switched over to ‘70s disco. The entire band was moved to tears.

At another wedding Gregg Kaminsky and his partner wore matching Burberry ties. They tied a Burberry scarf around their dog, a Jack Russell terrier, and sent him racing up the aisle with their wedding rings.

Though gay marriage remains a source of division on Beacon Hill, dozens of mainstream companies like Crunch Fitness and the Westin of New York flocked to the gay marriage exposition yesterday. The reason: Those wedding-day flower arrangements, honeymoon cruises, and catering jobs could add up to billions.

Gays and lesbians typically earn more, travel more, and spend more than straight couples. Gay travel alone is a $54 billion market, according to Community Marketing Inc. in San Francisco, which studies gay and lesbian demographics.

Berwind, the New York caterer, said gay couples are much more willing to pay top dollar to create their ideal weddings. For one lesbian couple, she catered a vegan wedding - complete with salisbury steak made of wheat protein and carob wedding cake.

Another gay couple decided that they wanted to pay her to make 300 two-tiered mini wedding cakes, one for each of their guests.

That’s also the thinking behind the creation of the first same-sex wedding expo in 2001. While companies tend to shy away from making statements on social issues, they are often quick to cater to affluent markets, said Connie Ress, director of Marriage Equality USA, which came up with the idea.

**``Marriage is a big business,’’ she said. ``It doesn’t matter who the participants are.’‘**


Sasha Talcott can be reached at .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address).

© Copyright 2006 Globe Newspaper Company.

Fiancé or Fiancée

A man engaged to be married is called his partner’s fiancé.
A woman engaged is called her partner’s fiancée. These words are pronounced identically in English; the separate feminine form exists because of the inflectional morphology of grammatical gender in French, where the term originated.

Examples for grooms:
My fiancé and I are being fitted for our tuxedos this Tuesday.

Example for Brides:
My fiancée loves my Vera Wang gown however she prefers to ware a suite on our wedding day.

**The Lesbian Bride’s Handbook**

Is white appropriate? What’s the right term for a groom who’s a woman? And what to say to her mother?

Link:
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  [1]: http://nymag.com/news/features/2007/sexandlove/30920/

Heavenly Father…what the f…’. happended to us?

**Slurs Contribute to an Unsafe School Climate**

1 in 5 high school students reported that they have missed school because of the fear of being bullied, harassed, or in a fight. 

25% of LGBT students said that they had recently missed school out of fear for their safety.

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**Faggot**
This slur, used most often against men who are gay or perceived to be gay, originates from an old word for a bundle of sticks.  These ìfaggot-bundlesî were used as fuel for fires, and during the European Inquisitions they were sometimes used to light the fires under people
burned at the stake for opposition to the Catholic Church.  The term later became a sexist and homophobic slur used against people who were marginalized in society, such as gays and elderly women.  The word ìfaggotî was first used in the U.S. in the early
20th century, and was applied to men who were seen as gay or effeminate.

**Bitch**
The literal definition of this word is ìfemale dog.î  However, it is most commonly used against women who are thought to be aggressive, overbearing, spiteful, or opinionated.  It is also used against men who are seen as weak, or against someone who is subservient to another person.  Sometimes, the word ìbitchesî is used to refer to women in general.

**FOB**
This slur stands for ìfresh off the boatî or ìfresh over the borderî and is meant to put down recent immigrants to the United States, especially people from Asia, Cuba, Haiti, and Mexico.  The term was first used in the 1970s by U.S.-born Asian Americans who wanted
to distance themselves from more culturally marginalized recent immigrants.

**Ghetto**
This is a term used derogatorily to refer to things that are thought to be cheap, run-down, out-of-date, or generally undesirable.  ìGhettoî often implies association with working class
communities of color, and carries with it the assumption that people who live in these areas are bad or inferior.  The word is defined by the American Heritage Dictionary as ìa section of a city occupied by a minority group who live there especially because of social, econom-
ic, or legal pressure,î and it originates from World War II, when Jews in many European cities were forced to live in separate areas.3
Nigger This word, used most commonly against Blacks and African-Americans, has a particularly charged history.  It comes from the Latin word ìniger,î  which means black.

**Retarded**
This slur is based on the medical diagnosis of ìmentally retarded,î applied to some people who have developmental disabilities.  It is widely used in a negative way to refer to people or things that are perceived to be stupid, annoying, or uncool, which in turn implies that
people with mental retardation are bad or inferior.  The term ìretardedî or ìretardî is also often misused against people with physical disabilities, the majority of whom do not suffer
from mental retardation.

**Towel-Head / Rag-Head / Diaper-Head**
These slurs are used against people of Middle-Eastern descent, as well as others perceived to be Muslim or Arab.  The slurs reference and poke fun at the turbans worn by some Muslim men.  Additionally, these slurs are often used against individuals from the Sikh faith,
who practice a religion founded in India in the 15th Century.  (Most Sikh men wear turbans and long beards, and are often mistakenly identified as Middle Eastern or Muslim.)  Use of slurs against people perceived to be Muslim or Arab has increased significantly in the U.S.
since the September 11th attacks on New York City and Washington, D.C., and such terms are often used to imply an association with terrorism.

Same-sex marriage is not comparable to “houses of ill repute” or “gambling casinos”. If two people of marriagable age love each other, and wish to make the committment that marriage entails, why would anyone else care what they do with their lives?  We applaud our state Supreme Court in finally making the decision to legalize same-sex weddings.  Michael will be photographing one next month. It won’t be his first, however. The first same-sex wedding that Michael ever photographed was my daughter’s, back in 2004, when it was briefly legal in our state. 

Some of the longest and happiest relationships that we know involve same-sex couples. Many have grown children who turned out very well. That fits in with the best of family values.

As far as laws against same sex couples go - there was a time when people of different races were not allowed to marry, either. My husband & I would not be married today, if those laws were allowed to continue. 

Social progression involves the courage to move beyond the status quo of what has gone on before, in favor of an enlightened, more tolerant, and fair society.  This includes practices which were acceptable for centuries which are no longer tolerated (or legal) in our country.

Anything we can do to eradicate mysogyny, homophobia, racism, or any other type of discrimination is a step in the right direction. 

Whether we get the jobs or not, we are happy to know that someone is performing these services here on the coast for loving couples.  That they might also be bringing in revenue for local businesses is just icing on the wedding cake.

Deb,

Once again you have stated my own thoughts completely and beautifully.

Bravo to you and the others on this post who have responded to those who are so fearful that they cannot embrace the happiness of others.

Mary

**Gay marriage may boost ailing Calif. economy**
**Study says $684 million could be spent in the next three years**

LINK:  [1]: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25084080/#storyContinued

**News Analysis: Gay Marriage Could Be Worth Billions For California**
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  [1]: http://www.petergreenberg.com/2008/05/30/news-analysis-gay-marriage-could-be-worth-billions-for-california/

**Gay marriage a gift to California’s economy**
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  [1]: http://articles.latimes.com/2008/jun/02/business/fi-wedding2

**Ballot Argument Against Proposition 8**


OUR CALIFORNIA CONSTITUTION—the law of our land – SHOULD GUARANTEE THE SAME FREEDOMS AND RIGHTS TO EVERYONE—NO ONE group SHOULD be singled out to BE TREATED DIFFERENTLY.

In fact, our nation was founded on the principle that all people should be treated equally. EQUAL PROTECTION UNDER THE LAW IS THE FOUNDATION OF AMERICAN SOCIETY.

That’s what this election is about—equality, freedom and fairness, for all.

Marriage is the institution that conveys dignity and respect to the lifetime commitment of any couple.  PROPOSITION 8 WOULD DENY LESBIAN AND GAY COUPLES that same DIGNITY AND RESPECT.
That’s why Proposition 8 is wrong for California.

Regardless of how you feel about this issue, the freedom to marry is fundamental to our society, just like the freedoms of religion and speech. 

PROPOSITION 8 MANDATES ONE SET OF RULES FOR GAY AND LESBIAN COUPLES AND ANOTHER SET FOR EVERYONE ELSE. That’s just not fair. **OUR LAWS SHOULD TREAT EVERYONE EQUALLY.**

In fact, the government has no business telling people who can and cannot get married.  Just like government has no business telling us what to read, watch on TV or do in our private lives.  We don’t need Prop 8; we don’t need more government in our lives.

REGARDLESS OF HOW ANYONE FEELS ABOUT MARRIAGE FOR GAY AND LESBIAN COUPLES, PEOPLE SHOULD NOT BE SINGLED OUT FOR UNFAIR TREATMENT UNDER THE LAWS OF OUR STATE. 

Those committed and loving couples who want to accept the responsibility that comes with marriage should be treated like everyone else. 



**DOMESTIC PARTNERSHIPS are NOT MARRIAGE.

**

When you’re married and your spouse is sick or hurt, there is no confusion: you get into the ambulance or hospital room with no
questions asked.

**IN EVERYDAY LIFE AND ESPECIALLY IN EMERGENCY SITUATIONS, DOMESTIC PARTNERSHIPS ARE SIMPLY NOT ENOUGH.** 

Only marriage provides the certainty and the security that people know they can count on in their times of greatest need.

**EQUALITY UNDER THE LAW IS A FUNDAMENTAL CONSTITUTIONAL GUARANTEE.** 

Prop 8 separates one group of Californians from another and excludes them from enjoying the same rights as other loving couples.

Forty-six years ago I married my college sweetheart, Julia. We raised three children—two boys and one girl.  The boys are married, with children of their own.  Our daughter, Liz, a lesbian, can now also be married—if she so chooses.

All we have ever wanted for our daughter is that she be treated with the same dignity and respect as her brothers—with the same freedoms and responsibilities as every other Californian.
My wife and I never treated our children differently, we never loved them any differently and now the law doesn’t treat them
differently, either.

Each of our children now has the same rights as the others, to choose the person to love, commit to and to marry.

Don’t take away the equality, freedom and fairness that everyone in California—straight, gay or lesbian—deserves.

**Please join us in voting NO on Prop 8**

I have mixed feelings about this Gay Wedding business initiative, and before I am accused of bias, or being anti-gay, I can assure that I am not a bigot.

I am concerned that some coastsiders are embracing this idea with “being good for business” as the only criteria. In that wave of thinking off shore drilling could be beneficial for the community, right? Perhaps a 3 lane-freeway into HMB could be a business booster, correct?

A community is more than just business. Whatever actions a community takes should be a reflection of its core values, therefore I’d start asking questions:

- Who is behind this business?
- What are the true motives?
- How long have they been coastsiders?
- What’s the impact on our children?

Whatever 2 people, same sex or not, decide to do behind close doors is not of my business, but if they do it in front of a child, anyone’s child, then it’s my business.

My comments have nothing to do with being a liberal or a conservative, being in favor or against same sex marriage. It’s about respect for the community we call home, it’s about keeping perspective on what defines us as coastsiders, while respecting culture, history and tradition. Before embracing a “good for business” initiative asking ourselves some important questions can never hurt.

A **bigot** is a person who is intolerant of opinions, lifestyles, or identities differing from his or her own, and bigotry is the corresponding state of mind.

**Majority in Poll Reject Gay Marriage Ban**

This time, Californians likely to vote in the Nov. 4 election were asked specifically about Proposition 8.

A majority of voters living in **coastal areas** oppose the ban, meanwhile, and a majority of those in inland counties generally support it.

By Aurelio Rojas - .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address)
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  [1]: http://www.sacbee.com/111/story/1091832.html

I have to ask Mr. Fernandez what he means by “if they do it in front of my child…”  I mean, I think I know what he’s talking about, but I have never been to a wedding ceremony where contact went any farther at the altar than a simple kiss.  Do you really think a same-sex ceremony is going to be so different?

**Same Sex Wedding Kiss**

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  [1]: http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-gayweddings-pg,0,5597152.photogallery?1

**GAY PEOPLE KISS ON THE COASTSIDE.**

GAY PEOPLE LIVE ON THE COASTSIDE. 
GAY PEOPLE OWN HOMES OF THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE SURF NEAR THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE GO TO SCHOOL ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE GARDEN ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE VOTE ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE FISH ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE SAIL NEAR THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE PAY TAXES ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE RIDE BIKES ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE SHOP AT THE FARMERS MARKT ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE GO TO CHURCH ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE HIKE ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE RIDE HORSES ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE READ ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE WORK ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE BECOME NEW PARENTS ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE RAISE FAMILIES ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE DO VOLUNTEER WORK ON THE COASTSIDE.
GAY PEOPLE GROW OLD ON THE COASTSIDE.

**GAY PEOPLE GET MARRIED ON THE COASTSIDE.**

I thought we on the Coast were beyond this, but I guess some of us are more beyond it than others.  I, (along with the Supreme Court) am willing to share the institution of marriage with others who are in love, and want to make a lifetime commitment to each other.  Maybe allowing others, who may have had a private commitment for decades, to have a public commitment, will strengthen our concept of marriage, and the institution in general. 

When my children see people of the same sex kissing, rather than hiding their eyes, it will be a perfect opportunity to talk with them about Love.  If my friends who are gay ask me where to plan their wedding, I will recommend the Coastside, not to stimulate the economy, but because it is an incredibly beautiful setting in which to exchange vows.  The coast doesn’t belong to us, it is ours to share.

Neil Merrilees

Molly Coddling
Gay ‘Marriage’ and Soft Despotism
July 22, 2008

In Michigan, a homosexual man is suing two Christian publishers—Zondervan and Tyndale House—for $70 million dollars. Bradley Fowler claims they violated his constitutional rights and caused him “emotional distress” by publishing versions of the Bible that call homosexuality a sin. In my view, Fowler is suing the wrong party, but perhaps he realizes he is likely to have difficulty hauling the real author into court.

While the lawsuit may strike us as funny, we ought to take such attacks on Christian teaching seriously: We are going to see many more of them if same-sex “marriage” is foisted upon us by the courts.

As Seana Sugrue explains in The Meaning of Marriage, edited by Robert George and Jean Bethke Elshtain, marriage is a pre-political institution, rooted in biology and moral obligations. Sugrue writes, “The reality of sex differences between men and women, leading to the potential for offspring, is essential to the pre-political foundation of marriage.”

But marriage as a political form of social order, independent of the state, “is precisely what advocates of same-sex ‘marriage’ seek to change,” according to Sugrue. “Marriage rooted in procreation and sexual differences is to be replaced by marriage for the gratification of two consenting adults.”

But unlike traditional marriage, “same-sex ‘marriage’ requires a condition of soft despotism to exist,” Sugrue warns.

“In claiming for homosexuals the right to marry,” she reasons, the “state also claims for itself the ability to declare what constitutes marriage . . . It transforms marriage from a pre-political obligation into its own creation.”

But as an artificial creation of the state, same-sex “marriage” is “an institution that needs to be coddled . . . Its very fragility demands a culture in which it is protected.” This means, as Sugrue argues, that “once marriage becomes a statist institution for the sake of consenting adults, the state will increasingly be called upon to create the social conditions to protect these unions.”

The need for coddling means the state will use public education for this end, and align itself against churches that refuse to recognize same-sex “marriage.”

So, the state has to use its power against two of society’s civil institutions: the family and the church.

Sugrue is right: We are already seeing the courts go after institutions and people who refuse to recognize the legitimacy of same-sex “marriage” where it is imposed. State-ordered gay “marriage” is an attack, not only on legitimate marriage, but upon religious freedom and the freedom not to have one’s children indoctrinated into alien ideas about marriage.

You need to understand the reasoning here so that we can present this argument in a winsome way to our neighbors. And we better be supporting efforts to pass constitutional amendments and laws defining marriage as one man and one woman; the issue is up in Florida, Arizona, and California this year. We also need to find out what the presidential candidates want to do, because they will be choosing the next Supreme Court justices who will ultimately decide this issue.

If we do not act, lawsuits against Bible publishers will no longer be a joke, but a despotic reality.

I don’t see silly lawsuits against bible publishers as indicative of a gay threat to religion any more than I consider silly anti-science laws promoted by many Christians as an indication that Christianity is inherently half-witted.

Married people are granted special privileges by the state in taxes, contracts, privacy, access, court, inheritance, and a host of other realms. Marriage has always been about power, privilege, and money.  Read your Old Testament.

**Coretta Scott King Gives her Support to Gay Marriage**

“Gay and lesbian people have families, and their families should have legal protection, whether by marriage or civil union,” she said. **“A constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriages is a form of gay bashing and it would do nothing at all to protect traditional marriages.”**

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  [1]: http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2004-03-24-king-marriage_x.htm

**Prior to the rise of Christianity, homosexuality had been accepted as normal expression of sexuality by all ancient cultures.**

There is evidence that same sex unions have occurred since the beginning of recorded history in Egypt, China, Greece, Rome and Japan. [5]

Famous lovers include the Egyptian couple Khnumhotep and Niankhkhnum and the Greek couple Harmodius and Aristogiton.

**The first recorded use of the word “marriage” for same-sex couples occurs during the Roman Empire. A number of marriages are recorded to have taken place during this period. [6]**

The rise of Christianity changed attitudes to same-sex unions and led to the persecution of gays and the rise of homophobia. In the year 342, the Christian emperors Constantius and Constans declared that same-sex marriage to be illegal.[7]

In the year 390, the Christian emperors Valentinian II, Theodoisus and Arcadius declared homosexual sex to be illegal and those who were guilty of it were condemned to be publicly burned alive. [8]

The Christian emperor Justinian (527-565) made homosexuals a scape goat for problems such as “famines, earthquakes, and pestilences.” [9]

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  [1]: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_against_LGBT_people

Huh…And what happened to little weird Nero and Rome??

Look him up.  The first Christian basher.

**Acts of violence alleged or proven to have been inspired by hatred of LGBT victims**

The arson of the The Upstairs Lounge in New Orleans, Louisiana on June 24, 1973 killing 32 people.

The stabbing death of Robert Hillsborough in San Francisco, California June 21, 1977 by a man shouting “faggot.”

On November 27, 1978, openly gay San Francisco city supervisor Harvey Milk was assassinated by political rival Dan White at San Francisco City Hall, along with Mayor George Moscone. Outrage over Milk’s and Moscone’s assassinations and the short sentence given to White (7 years) prompted the White Night Riots.[14]

Tennessee Williams was the victim of an assault in January 1979 in Key West, being beaten by five teenage boys. He escaped serious injury. The episode was part of a spate of anti-gay violence inspired by an anti-gay newspaper ad run by a local Baptist minister.[15]

The beating death of Terry Knudsen by three men in Loring Park in Minneapolis, Minnesota on June 5th, 1979.

The beating death of Les Benscoter on June 15, 1979 in his St. Paul, Minnesota apartment with the words, “fags will die” written in toothpaste on his furniture.

The beating of Rick Hunter and John Hanson by Minneapolis police outside the Ya’ll Come Back Saloon on January 1, 1982. Hennepin County Hospital emergency room staff employees testified in court that the police called the two men queers and sissies while the men were being treated for their injuries.

The beating to death of Declan Flynn in Fairview Park, Dublin in 1983. The murder and subsequent suspended sentences of the perpetrators who pleaded guilty to murder saw the emergence of a more vocal gay community in the aftermath.[16]

The beating death of Charlie Howard in Bangor, Maine in 1984.

On May 13, 1988, Rebecca Wight was killed when she and her partner, Claudia Brenner, were shot by Stephen Roy Carr while hiking and camping along the Appalachian Trail. Carr later claimed that he became enraged by the couple’s lesbianism when he saw them having sex. Carr claimed the woman taunted him by having sex in front of him.

The fatal stabbing of James Zappalorti, a gay Vietnam veteran (1945 – 1990)

The death of Julio Rivera in New York City on July 2, 1990 by two men who beat him with a hammer and stabbed with a knife because he was gay.

The killing of Paul Broussard, a Houston-area banker (1968-1991)

The rape and later murder of Brandon Teena, a transsexual man (1972 – 1993). The events leading to Mr. Teena’s death were made into the movie Boys Don’t Cry.

On March 9, 1995, Scott Amedure was murdered after revealing his homosexual attraction to his friend Jonathan Schmitz on The Jenny Jones Show.

The murders of Roxanne Ellis and Michelle Abdill, a lesbian couple in Medford, Oregon in 1995, by a man who said he thought their “lifestyle” was “sick.”

The bombing of the Otherside Lounge, a lesbian nightclub in Atlanta, by Eric Robert Rudolph, the “Olympic Park Bomber,” on February 21, 1997; five bar patrons were injured.

The death by beating and exposure of Matthew Shepard, a gay student (1976 – 1998)

The fatal beating of supposedly gay teenager Jeff Whittington in Wellington, New Zealand on May 8, 1999.

In May 1999, Admiral Duncan pub, a gay bar in Soho was bombed by David Copeland, killing at least 2 people and wounding 73 people.[17]

The murder of Pfc Barry Winchell on July 6, 1999. He was dating Calpernia Addams, a transgendered author.


John Atherton, Bishop of Waterford and Lismore, was hanged for sodomy under a law that he had helped to institute. His lover was John Childe, his steward and tithe proctor, also hanged. Anonymous pamphlet, 1641.

The July 1, 1999, murders of gay couple Gary Matson and Winfield Mowder by white supremacist brothers Matthew and Tyler Williams. Matthew Williams claimed that by killing the couple he was following “obeying the law of God,” because he believed homosexuality violated God’s laws. Williams said he hoped his actions would inspire further violence against homosexuals and ethnic minorities.

The murder of Steen Fenrich by his stepfather, in September 1999. His dismembered remains were found in March 2001, with the phrase “gay nigger number one” scrawled on his skull along with his social security number.

In November 1999, Blah Bar, a gay bar in Cape Town, South Africa was bombed injuring 2 people.[18]

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  [1]: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_against_LGBT_people

The murder of Arthur “J.R.” Warren by three teenage boys on July 3, 2000, who believed Warren spread a rumor that he and one of the boys had a sexual relationship. Warren’s killers ran over his body to disguise the murder as a hit-and-run.

One notorious incident of gay-bashing occurred on September 22, 2000. Ronald Gay entered a gay bar in Roanoke, Virginia and opened fire on the patrons, killing Danny Overstreet and injuring six others. Ronald said he was angry over what his name now meant, and deeply upset that three of his sons had changed their surname. He claimed that he had been told by God to find and kill lesbians and gay men, describing himself as a “Christian Soldier working for my Lord”.[19]

Aaron Webster, a gay man in Vancouver, British Columbia, was beaten to death in Stanley Park in 2001.

On June 16, 2001, Fred Martinez, a transgender student was attacked and beaten to death by 18-year old Shaun Murphy.

On June 30, 2001, hundreds of soccer hooligans attacked participants of the first Serbian Pride Parade in Belgrade.

The 2002 homicide of Nizah Morris, a transgender in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and the mishandling of the case by the Philadelphia Police Department.

The non-fatal stabbing of Bertrand Delanoë, a gay politician, Mayor of Paris, France, in 2002

The killing of Gwen Araujo, a transsexual woman (1985 – 2002). Michael Magidson, Jaron Nabors, and José Merél were charged with the murder as a hate crime, with Jason Cazares charged as an accomplice. Nabors made a deal with prosecution, receiving a manslaughter conviction in exchange for testimony, but his testimony was largely considered unreliable. The jury hung on Cazares, who then pled guilty to voluntary manslaughter to avoid a retrial. Magidson and Merél were convicted of second-degree murder, but the hate crime enhancement was not accepted by the jury.

Sakia Gunn (May 26, 1987-May 11, 2003) was a 15-year old African American lesbian who was murdered in a hate crime in Newark, New Jersey. On the night of May 11, Gunn was returning from a night out in Greenwich Village, Manhattan with her friends. While waiting for the #1 New Jersey Transit bus at the corner of Broad and Market Streets in downtown Newark, Gunn and her friends were propositioned by two men. When the girls rejected their advances, by declaring themselves to be lesbians, the men attacked them. Gunn fought back, and one of the men, Richard McCullough, stabbed her in the chest. Both men immediately fled the scene in their vehicle. After one of Gunn’s friends flagged down a passing driver, she was taken to nearby University Hospital, where she died.

On June 17, 2003, Richie Phillips was murdered by Joseph Cottrell. His body was later found in a suitcase, in Rough River Lake. During his trial, Cottrell’s relatives testified that he lured Phillips to his death, and killed him because he was gay.

On July 23, 2003, Nireah Johnson and Brandie Coleman were murdered by Paul Moore, when Moore learned after a sexual encounter that Johnson was transgender.

On July 31, 2003, 37-year-old Glenn Kopitske was killed by 17-year-old Gary Hirte. Hirte pleaded insanity, claiming he killed Kopitske in a murderous rage after a consensual sexual encounter with the victim, because he felt a homosexual act was “worse than murder.”

On June 5, 2004, Jamaican Gay rights activist Brian Williamson was murdered with a machete, suffering several stab wounds to neck and face.

On September 28, 2004, Sierra Leonean gay and lesbian rights activist FannyAnn Eddy was murdered while she was working late in her office. Her attackers have escaped from prison and have never been recaptured and prosecuted.

On October 2, 2004 two men in Waverly, Ohio beat Daniel Fetty to death with bricks and boards. Prosecuters believe it was because Fetty was gay.

On January 28, 2005, Ronnie Paris, a three-year-old African American child died due to brain injuries resulting from abuse by his father. According to his mother and other relatives, Ronnie Paris, Jr., would slam his son into walls and force him to “slap-box” because he was concerned the child was gay and feared his son would grow up a sissy.

On March 11, 2005, Jason Gage—an openly gay man—was murdered in his Waterloo, Iowa apartment by an assailant who claimed Gage had made advances and was killed when he fought with the victim. The district attorney in the case noted neither the victim or the perpetrator, or the apartment bore any signs of struggle. Gage was bludgeoned to death with a bottle, and stabbed in the neck with a shard of glass.

On June 30, 2005, Yishai Shlisel, a Haredi Jew stabbed three marchers in a gay pride parade in Jerusalem, Israel, claiming he acted on behalf of God.[20]

Jody Dobrowski, murdered in 2005 in London, the two murderers were later sentenced to life in prison.

In September 2005, Lauren Harries, a former child antiques expert who had gender realignment surgery to become a woman, her father and brother were attacked by 8 young men in their home in Cardiff. According to court, the youths were shouting and swearing and were heard to shout out the word “tranny” - a term of abuse associated with hate crime.[21]

In December 2005, a Jamaican mob chased an alleged gay man who, fearful of the crowd, jumped into the water and drowned.[22]

In February 2006, Gisberta Salce Júnior, a homeless Brazilian transsexual living in extreme social exclusion in the Portuguese city of Oporto, was tortured and anally raped with sticks over a period of three days and then thrown into a pit and left to die in an abandoned construction site. A group of twelve to fourteen adolescent boys between the age of 12 and 16 admitted to committing this crime.[23]

On February 2, 2006, 18 year-old Jacob D. Robida entered a bar in New Bedford, Massachusetts, confirmed that it was a gay bar, and then attacked patrons with a gun and a hatchet, wounding at least three.[24]

In April 2006, students rioted at the University of the West Indies in Jamaica and attacked an alleged gay student.[22]
On April 6, 2006, two American television producers, CBS Evening News senior producer Richard Jefferson and 48 Hours producer-researcher Ryan Smith, were beaten with a tire iron outside the Sunset Beach Bar on the Caribbean island of St. Maarten by a group of four men and two women. The attack left Smith unable to speak properly, having suffered a skull fracture and brain damage.[25]

On June 10, 2006, Kevin Aviance was robbed and beaten by a group of men who yelled anti-gay slurs at him

On July 30, 2006, six men were brutally beaten after leaving the San Diego, California Gay Pride festival. One of the gay men was beaten so badly that he had to undergo extensive facial reconstructive surgery. All but one of the attackers were adults the exception being a 15-year-old. The attackers were charged with hate crimes.[26]

On October 8, 2006, Michael Sandy was attacked by four heterosexual young men who lured him into meeting after chatting with him online, while they were looking for gay men to rob. Sandy was hit by a car while trying to escape his attackers. He died five days later, never having regained consciousness.

On February 14, 2007, three gay men and the gay activist Gareth Williams were stoned by a huge mob in a homophobic attack in Kingston, Jamaica. International human rights organisations have described Jamaica as one of the most homophobic places in the world[27][28]

On April 8, 2007, approximately 100 men gathered outside a church where 150 people were attending the funeral of a gay man in Mandeville, Jamaica. According to mourners, the crowd broke the windows with bottles and shouted, “We want no battyman [gay] funeral here. Leave or else we’re going to kill you. We don’t want no battyman buried here in Mandeville.” [22]

On May 12, 2007, Roberto Duncanson was murdered in Brooklyn, New York. He was stabbed to death by Omar Willock, who claimed Duncanson had flirted with him.

May 16, 2007, Sean William Kennedy, 20, was walking to his car from Brew’s Bar in Greenville, SC when Andrew Moller, 18, got out of another car and approached Kennedy. Investigators said that Moller made a comment about Kennedy’s sexual orientation, and threw a fatal punch because he didn’t like another man’s sexual preference.[29]

On May 29, 2007, Michael Marcil, better known as drag queen Dixie Landers was beaten outside of an Ottawa, Ontario gay pub. Andrew Lefebvre and Sheri-Lee Rand have been charged for the attack.[30]

On July 7, 2007, 30 participants at a gay pride event in Croatia were attacked by multiple assailants. The attackers had also prepared Molotov cocktails but were stopped by the police before using them. Many people taking part in Gay Pride marches in Eastern Europe (e.g: Romania, Russia, Serbia) have been beaten after leaving the marches.[31][32]

In September 2007, Osvan Inacio dos Santos, 19, was attacked and murdered in a street near a bar where he had just won the local “Miss Gay” competition in the town of Batingas in northeast Brazil. dos Santos’ naked body was found on Sunday morning and forensic examination found his skull had been fractured and indicated sexual assault.[33]

On December 3, 2007, Craig Gee was attacked by four men whilst holding his boyfriend’s hand walking down Crown Street in Surry Hills, Sydney, Australia. Part of his skull was reduced to powder and his leg was broken during the attack. [34] This incident prompted a vigil against the rising level of homophobia in the city and alleged apathy from police [35], and despite the attack, Gee and his boyfriend joined the Chief of Parade Margaret Cho to lead the 2008 Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras parade. [36]

In January, 2008, three gay men were attacked in the privacy of their dwelling by an angry mob who had days before threatened them if they did not leave the community in Mandeville, Jamaica. According to reports, two men were hospitalised, one with serious injuries, while another man is still missing and feared dead.[28][22]

In February 2008, Brazilian gay rights activist Alexandre Peixe dos Santos was attacked and beaten at the Sao Paulo’s Gay Pride Association offices in Brazil. Activists estimate that more than 2,680 gay people were murdered in Brazil between 1980 and 2006[37]

On February 12, 2008, Lawrence “Larry” King, a 15 year old junior highschool student was shot by a classmate at E.O. Green School in Oxnard, California. He was taken off life support after doctors declared him brain dead on February 15. According to Associated Press reports, “prosecutors have charged a 14-year-old classmate with premeditated murder with hate-crime and firearm-use enhancements”.[38][39][40]

In February 2008, transsexual Duanna Johnson was beaten by a police officer while she was held in the Shelby County Criminal Justice Center. Johnson said the officers reportedly called her a “faggot” and “he-she,” before and during the incident.[41][42]

In Rochester, New York on March 16, 2008 police say Lance Neve was beaten unconscious because Neve was gay. A man attacked Neve at a bar leaving him with a fractured skull, and a broken nose.

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Nero? Nero was a third-rate Christian basher, a piker compared to later *Christian* Christian bashers.

Sabrnia:

These are all very gruesome stats.  Perhaps we should look at the underlying facts behind these acts.  Were all these crimes performed by Christians or simply people who inately view homosexuality as abhorant behavior?  And if so, WHY?

I am not sure what my views toward what I consider “abnormal” behavior are based upon.  I do know that prostitution and gambling are more “normal” than perverse sexual behavior.  Perhaps “perverse” is a bit of a stretch…I just don’t know.  What is “normal” and what ain’t?

**Injustice Anywhere is a Threat to Justice Everywhere** -MLK

CHICAGO -Coretta Scott King, speaking four days before the 30th anniversary of her husband’s assassination, said Tuesday the civil rights leader’s memory demanded a strong stand for gay and lesbian rights.

“I still hear people say that I should not be talking about the rights of lesbian and gay people and I should stick to the issue of racial justice,” she said. “But I hasten to remind them that Martin Luther King Jr. said, ‘Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.’”

“I appeal to everyone who believes in Martin Luther King Jr.‘s dream to make room at the table of brother- and sisterhood for lesbian and gay people,” she said.

“Gays and lesbians stood up for civil rights in Montgomery (and) Selma (Alabama), in Albany, Georgia, and St. Augustine, Florida, and many other campaigns of the civil rights movement,” King said.

She said she saluted the contributions “of these courageous men and women” who fought “for my freedom at a time when they could find few voices for their own.”

King spoke at a 25th anniversary celebration for the Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, a group that has pursued gay rights issues in the courts and won several key victories.

Noting that Saturday would mark the 30th anniversary of her husband’s death in Memphis, Tennessee, she cited his “very strong sense of ministry” and said he had often remarked that “the end of life is not to be happy but to do God’s will.”

Reuters, March 31, 1998